Emergencies- going out of your energy envelope

I am having to give support to my daughters partner as her mother had very suddenly become ill and is now receiving palliative care only. It has all been such a shock and the children need lots of support.

I am trying hard to support them while at the same time looking after my own needs and am finding reserves from somewhere but know I will eventually crash.

sometimes it is necessary for a special occasion or a time when others have greater need to deliberately go out of your energy requirements.

So if you know it is coming up have rests before and plan to have rests after. Rest as much as possible during and look after your own needs in order to look after others. A bit like putting your own mask on first before your child in an aeroplane.

Make sure you have plenty of medication including emergency supplies and anything else you use for pain relief. Drink plenty of water and eat enough snacks- now is not the time to watch your weight. Take your medication regularily set an alarm if necessary.

If others offer help take it whether other freinds or official support don't be afraid to ask.

Use whatever is there to get through it and when it is over give yourself praise for your efforts ans look after yourself and ask others to look after you too.

love and hugs

Spoon Story

I wonder do you know the spoon story? it was written by Christine Miserandino from http://butyoudontlooksick.com/ and I find it really useful to explain the limits to my energy on a daily basis.
When I first read it I was really excited about it and sent it to lots of friends and family but was disappointed by the lack of response from soem people but others really got it.
My young daughter will often say to me-now Mum that's is too many spoons and my good friend will say- have you got any spoons today, do you want to go out?
She even sent me a lovely picture of spoons which I would like to reproduce as I lost it from my phone, think I will do this for one of my photos on my 101 list

Here's a link to the story I hope you enjoy it:
http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/navigation/BYDLS-TheSpoonTheory.pdf